Creating Your "Getting-Back" Letter

You should focus on the elements of your letter which you should plan out properly in order for you go back to your relationship. Let us check on these elements.

Substance. Normally, you would get the urge to come up with a letter right after the relationship. Ignore this urge. If you cannot, then make sure you trash the letter after you write it.

The substance of this letter will be coming from someone who is still so emotional about the break up to make real sense about the situation. This is the reason why you should not write at this period. Take time to cool your thoughts and emotions, and then reflect on the situation.

Timing. In all that we do or say, we have to consider when we should act or say at the right moment. Otherwise, the reaction we expect from the other person may never materialize. For example, if you send a letter wanting to go back to the relationship while he is still has a hangover over your breakup, he might just refuse to read your letter.

When you agreed to breakup, let it settle first before you send a letter asking him to come back to you. The guy will only get confused and worst feel that you are pathetic and decide to completely leave you forever. So, be patient and sensitive enough to know when you should send the letter to explain how you feel.

Avoid promising that the next time you go back that it would be better, or perfect. This will certainly turn the guy off when he remembers how imperfect you two were. What you can do is start by admitting how the breakup made you realize the mistakes you did and apologize sincerely, then try to solicit some response on how he feels about the entire situation.

How to Stop Your Man From Cheating

Think about when you and your boyfriend or husband first met. You probably had a lot of admiration for him and this in turn attracted him to you like crazy! The key here is admiration. Men want to feel like they are admired and women respect their masculinity. This is a huge turn on for men and will have them attached to you like glue. You obviously had these feelings at the beginning of your relationship and at that point your man wouldn't have ever thought about cheating.

As your relationship moves on you probably lost some of that admiration or stopped expressing it. This in turn causes you man to seek it elsewhere. Most often this is the root of all cheating and affairs. It may sound juvenile but men crave this type of connection and you obviously provided it at one point.

Men are not driven to cheat by a pretty face or nice body despite what most people think. They crave an environment where they feel respected, admired, and powerful. This was probably very prominent in your relationship at the beginning and you man would do anything to keep that going. He can't, however, force you to treat him a certain way. Just as you probably desire flowers or sweet gifts from time to time, admiration is the equivalent for males. Think of this as the ultimate armor for scandalous women that would be willing to steal your man away.

This about your relationship and how it has changed. Has your man already cheated or are you just afraid that he will? Has the fun and excitement ended and turned into nagging and frustration? A lot of times men feel nagged by their girlfriend or wife after the admiration and respect begins to wear off and the relationship becomes too comfortable. Realize that as you desire certain treatment and emotion, so does your man. It takes work to stay together and build a strong relationship. Every person has needs and if they are fulfilled as they were in the beginning of your relationship then your man won't even consider cheating on you!