Creating Your "Getting-Back" Letter

You should focus on the elements of your letter which you should plan out properly in order for you go back to your relationship. Let us check on these elements.

Substance. Normally, you would get the urge to come up with a letter right after the relationship. Ignore this urge. If you cannot, then make sure you trash the letter after you write it.

The substance of this letter will be coming from someone who is still so emotional about the break up to make real sense about the situation. This is the reason why you should not write at this period. Take time to cool your thoughts and emotions, and then reflect on the situation.

Timing. In all that we do or say, we have to consider when we should act or say at the right moment. Otherwise, the reaction we expect from the other person may never materialize. For example, if you send a letter wanting to go back to the relationship while he is still has a hangover over your breakup, he might just refuse to read your letter.

When you agreed to breakup, let it settle first before you send a letter asking him to come back to you. The guy will only get confused and worst feel that you are pathetic and decide to completely leave you forever. So, be patient and sensitive enough to know when you should send the letter to explain how you feel.

Avoid promising that the next time you go back that it would be better, or perfect. This will certainly turn the guy off when he remembers how imperfect you two were. What you can do is start by admitting how the breakup made you realize the mistakes you did and apologize sincerely, then try to solicit some response on how he feels about the entire situation.

Why is Love a Waiting Game?

As a spiritual counselor, I get many calls from people who are waiting for someone to change into their ideal love partner, soul mate or twin flame. I am always asked when this person will show up and why he/she has not already appeared. Many have been confronted with a similar person time after time. The other becomes an unappealing lesson or mirror of some kind instead of the ideal mate that they had hoped for at the beginning of the relationship. I am always surprised when I find that the person waiting has finally accepted another as who they are and no longer is in that frustrating limbo called The Love Waiting Game! They either release that person to allow another to come into their lives or move ahead with the same person with their eyes open. Awake to the fact that the other person is not able to fulfill ALL their needs. Ultimately, this is an unrealistic expectation of anyone else. We must grow to fulfill our own needs. Then, the love relationship remains fun!

We forget that a committed relationship and/or marriage is just the equivalent to moving from the minors into the major leagues. We can think it is the prize we are seeking that will finally lead us to tranquility in partnership. That is rarely the case! Most often, the new set of skills required are intense. So intense, that our divorce rate, here in the western world, is growing and our children suffer our mistakes now and later.

Sure, there are crazy situations that are worth struggling through and people worth waiting for out there. I am talking here of being in denial about ourselves and our own needs then pulling someone in who wakes us up to our real priorities in life. That could be seen as a great gift instead of another romantic failure. The object here is to really get the lesson or gift that will allow us to have a peaceful, stable and loving relationship.

Love relationship between two human beings is the speediest and most intense spiritual path there is in this life. It takes a brave and courageous person to really undertake it, understand it, and persevere to find the many gifts that unfold within it. Yet, first ask yourself if YOU are the grounded, stable, loving partner for another. We can only attract what we are ourselves!!!!

Say we want a grounded love relationship. Say we want a loving, gentle, kind, thoughtful, sexy love partner who is honest and stable. Let's work on ourselves first. Let's become all that to get all that in another. This could be the true meaning of loving yourself.

Maintaining the Genuine Love

To maintain the genuine love for each other are as follows: First spending quality time with your partner, in a way that your partner would feel that even if you are very busy with your work you still have time for your partner to discuss about your family and your children's future. Second is having a constant date with your partner so that the intimacy of your relationship will not get lessen. Through dating everyday, you can fill the love cup of your partner; it is good to fill the love cup of your partner everyday so that it will not get drained. And the third one is giving some materials that your partner like, just like for example flowers, chocolates and some other stuffs that your partner would feel that you love you them and you still think about her/him even if you have a busy day everyday.

It is vital to maintain your genuine love as well as the genuine love of your partner for your relationship will get stronger and firm. Also, always be there beside him/her. Couples nowadays are splitting for the reason that their partner no longer has any love towards them and when their partner needs them, they are not there beside their partner.