Creating Your "Getting-Back" Letter

You should focus on the elements of your letter which you should plan out properly in order for you go back to your relationship. Let us check on these elements.

Substance. Normally, you would get the urge to come up with a letter right after the relationship. Ignore this urge. If you cannot, then make sure you trash the letter after you write it.

The substance of this letter will be coming from someone who is still so emotional about the break up to make real sense about the situation. This is the reason why you should not write at this period. Take time to cool your thoughts and emotions, and then reflect on the situation.

Timing. In all that we do or say, we have to consider when we should act or say at the right moment. Otherwise, the reaction we expect from the other person may never materialize. For example, if you send a letter wanting to go back to the relationship while he is still has a hangover over your breakup, he might just refuse to read your letter.

When you agreed to breakup, let it settle first before you send a letter asking him to come back to you. The guy will only get confused and worst feel that you are pathetic and decide to completely leave you forever. So, be patient and sensitive enough to know when you should send the letter to explain how you feel.

Avoid promising that the next time you go back that it would be better, or perfect. This will certainly turn the guy off when he remembers how imperfect you two were. What you can do is start by admitting how the breakup made you realize the mistakes you did and apologize sincerely, then try to solicit some response on how he feels about the entire situation.

How to Stop Your Man From Cheating

Think about when you and your boyfriend or husband first met. You probably had a lot of admiration for him and this in turn attracted him to you like crazy! The key here is admiration. Men want to feel like they are admired and women respect their masculinity. This is a huge turn on for men and will have them attached to you like glue. You obviously had these feelings at the beginning of your relationship and at that point your man wouldn't have ever thought about cheating.

As your relationship moves on you probably lost some of that admiration or stopped expressing it. This in turn causes you man to seek it elsewhere. Most often this is the root of all cheating and affairs. It may sound juvenile but men crave this type of connection and you obviously provided it at one point.

Men are not driven to cheat by a pretty face or nice body despite what most people think. They crave an environment where they feel respected, admired, and powerful. This was probably very prominent in your relationship at the beginning and you man would do anything to keep that going. He can't, however, force you to treat him a certain way. Just as you probably desire flowers or sweet gifts from time to time, admiration is the equivalent for males. Think of this as the ultimate armor for scandalous women that would be willing to steal your man away.

This about your relationship and how it has changed. Has your man already cheated or are you just afraid that he will? Has the fun and excitement ended and turned into nagging and frustration? A lot of times men feel nagged by their girlfriend or wife after the admiration and respect begins to wear off and the relationship becomes too comfortable. Realize that as you desire certain treatment and emotion, so does your man. It takes work to stay together and build a strong relationship. Every person has needs and if they are fulfilled as they were in the beginning of your relationship then your man won't even consider cheating on you!

How to Be Romantic

Here are some never-fail tips to get you into the heart of romance. By the way, these will appeal to any kind of romance. It is not restricted to intimate couples only.

1. Get Into The Feeling of Romance:

Slow down enough to appreciate the beauty of a sunset, the blossom of a flower, the unconfined wonder of a small child, and so on. For you men out there, this is not mushy stuff, this is just how natural living really feels like. How can you create that feeling of romance with a woman, if you don't try it on for yourself? As they say, "Try it, you'll like it!" It's about getting into the mood for romance in a very effective way.

2. Be Creatively Thoughtful:

Tune into your loved one. Breathe into what you really love about her. Think of a small, special gesture you can do that is outside your agreed upon regular routines and duties.Get creative here: a single favorite flower, a short poem, a special errand, an unexpected gesture, and so on. As you practice, these simple ideas will keep multiplying and you'll never be at a loss.

3. Show Your Affection:

Get to know what your beloved likes. Don't reserve your affection only for your private intimate times. Make her feel special in public too: hold her hand, flirt a little, give her a sweet embrace, toast her at dinner, or cook her a special meal. You'll get to know what pleases her. For instance, I quickly learned that Gertie hates being whistled at in public, it embarrasses her and makes her feel cheap.

These three romantic tips will make you a very rich man in many ways. I can certainly attest to it. And you don't have to be slick or perfect at this. Your beloved will feel your genuine effort and return your affection thousandfold. So go for it. You have nothing to lose!

Why is Love a Waiting Game?

As a spiritual counselor, I get many calls from people who are waiting for someone to change into their ideal love partner, soul mate or twin flame. I am always asked when this person will show up and why he/she has not already appeared. Many have been confronted with a similar person time after time. The other becomes an unappealing lesson or mirror of some kind instead of the ideal mate that they had hoped for at the beginning of the relationship. I am always surprised when I find that the person waiting has finally accepted another as who they are and no longer is in that frustrating limbo called The Love Waiting Game! They either release that person to allow another to come into their lives or move ahead with the same person with their eyes open. Awake to the fact that the other person is not able to fulfill ALL their needs. Ultimately, this is an unrealistic expectation of anyone else. We must grow to fulfill our own needs. Then, the love relationship remains fun!

We forget that a committed relationship and/or marriage is just the equivalent to moving from the minors into the major leagues. We can think it is the prize we are seeking that will finally lead us to tranquility in partnership. That is rarely the case! Most often, the new set of skills required are intense. So intense, that our divorce rate, here in the western world, is growing and our children suffer our mistakes now and later.

Sure, there are crazy situations that are worth struggling through and people worth waiting for out there. I am talking here of being in denial about ourselves and our own needs then pulling someone in who wakes us up to our real priorities in life. That could be seen as a great gift instead of another romantic failure. The object here is to really get the lesson or gift that will allow us to have a peaceful, stable and loving relationship.

Love relationship between two human beings is the speediest and most intense spiritual path there is in this life. It takes a brave and courageous person to really undertake it, understand it, and persevere to find the many gifts that unfold within it. Yet, first ask yourself if YOU are the grounded, stable, loving partner for another. We can only attract what we are ourselves!!!!

Say we want a grounded love relationship. Say we want a loving, gentle, kind, thoughtful, sexy love partner who is honest and stable. Let's work on ourselves first. Let's become all that to get all that in another. This could be the true meaning of loving yourself.